Bridal boudoir photography was something I wholeheartedly recommend to women for many reasons. I have detailed these reasons in my posts as to why to include boudoir photos and tips and ideas for boudoir photography. However, if I had to reduce it to one reason I would say you should do a bridal boudoir photoshoot because it is a wonderful gift to yourself that reminds of the beautiful woman and celebrates her who you are while you are Prepare yourself to enter a new meaningful phase in life. But what if all of the messages you’ve received all your life about body image and appropriateness have led you to believe that boudoir photography is too forgiving, embarrassing, and even delicate? I’m all too familiar with this narrative so I set out to explore and address it directly.
As Asian Americans, we have likely been told to hide all ideas about sexuality and just be calm and reserved. Until my mid-20s, I assumed that boudoir photos were only taken by celebrities, not the average Chinese girl next door (can you even imagine the scandal?). One of the first steps I took to rewrite this narrative was to take my own boudoir photos in my 20s. When I showed my mother the photos, she was so embarrassed and had to avert her eyes! More recently, I’ve had the opportunity to lead a bridal boudoir shoot and I wanted to postpone the envelope by not only having a Sino-American model, but also that she was a Chinese bride.
The cheongsam, or qipao, is the traditional garment for a Chinese bride, and certain elements clearly reflect the modesty expected by Chinese women (e.g., the dense fabric and the stand-up collar, which is basically a turtleneck sweater). What could be sexier than literally unfastening some of these buttons? I think it’s great that these images challenge our expectations. I want Asian American women to look at these photos and see that they can embrace their culture and also be sensual and desirable. We are so much more than delicate flowers that follow the rules and hide behind outdated notions of decency. We can redefine what it means to be a strong, smart, and classy Asian woman, and a bridal boudoir photo shoot can be a way to express yourself.
If you’re ready to regain your relationship with your self-image, or just want to invest in gorgeous bridal boudoir photography for fun, contact me today to see how we can achieve it!