There is a traditional order in which to speak at a wedding – but it is important to remember that it is your wedding so that the format is really up to you. It is useful to keep the traditional format in mind so that you can decide which elements to include and which to vary.
The short version of the traditional order of speeches
The toast to the bride and groom – given by the father of the bride or a close friend of the family.
The groom’s answer on behalf of his wife and himself. He then proposes a toast to the bridesmaids.
The best man’s speech on behalf of the bridesmaids. He then reads any email or messages.
The longer version of the traditional order of speeches
Greeting by the master of ceremonies.
Introducing the person who proposes a toast to the newlyweds.
Answer from the groom and a toast to the bridesmaids.
Answer from the best man.
Toast to the bride’s parents.
Answer from the bride’s father.
Toast to the groom’s parents.
Answer from the groom’s father.
Reading important news.
Any other comments from those who wish to be recognized.
MC thanks the musicians, caterers and everyone else.
You don’t need to adhere to this format. If someone is very shy, why spoil the happy day with torture? There is absolutely no reason why the girls cannot have their say! If the bride wants to speak, she may want to do so after the groom. She can toast to both the groomsmen and the bridesmaids, and then the chief bridesmaid or the best man can respond. Much depends on who is good at speaking. As long as the people who count are thanked and someone wishes the happy couple all the best, speeches are simply a means of livening up the party atmosphere and making sure the room is full of joy and laughter.
Now you have an idea of the traditional order of speeches. Check out our pros and cons to write a speech here!