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How one can plan the perfect bachelorette celebration

First, let’s ask a question: What was the first thing that crossed your mind when your beast asked you to be her maid of honor? If you answered the bachelorette party, you are right. If you answered otherwise, you are lying.

We know planning and attending your BFF’s bachelorette party will be the highlight of your time as a maid of honor. So you don’t have to deny it.

Yes, we know that arranging the bridal shower is an important duty and it is a great honor to give the bride and groom a toast, but you make fun of it when a girls-only getaway doesn’t make you more dizzying than ever!

Now that we’ve covered that, it’s time to get down to business. To help you organize a Ballin ‘Bach Bash, we’ve put together a detailed rundown of everything you need to know about planning stag and hen parties. From choosing a date and destination to coordinating clothes and treats, we’ve got it all and a lot more covered.

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Preparation for the Bachelorette Party (6+ months)

Decide on local versus target

Before you start planning the bachelorette party, it is important to consult with the bride to determine whether she wants a local celebration or a destination celebration. While stag and hen parties are becoming more common these days, they are not always a given for every bride. As the maid of honor, it is up to you to help your bride decide what will best suit her style.

Depending on their personal preferences, travel and accommodation costs, or a number of factors, your BFF may be spending their bachelorette in their hometown or nearby e.g. B. in the holiday home of a family or a friend (beach / lake / mountain / etc.). .

MODERN MOH TIP: Talk to the rest of the bridal party before planning on setting a spending budget that everyone is comfortable with. This is also a time to discuss what the bride will and will not pay for (i.e. travel / accommodation expenses, food / drink bills, etc.).

Choose a place

If your bride is going to decide on a bachelorette party, the next thing you need to determine is where to go. Often times the bride already has a place in mind, which makes her job easy. However, if your beast is about where in the air, it is your duty to help him narrow down the options.

Take into account the travel time, the total budget and above all the personality of your bride. If the two of you are able to make a few decisions but can’t make the final call, get the opinions of your fellow bridesmaids to help you with these.

Remember that the cost of travel is more expensive than the cost of staying on site. Therefore, it is important that all participants at the destination agree and are happy with the amount they will have to spend.

Choose a date

Once you’ve answered where, the next step in planning a bachelorette party is determining when. In most cases, your girls’ short vacation will be a long weekend, usually Thursday-Sunday or Friday-Monday.

Similar to the bridal shower, you want to plan your trip no earlier than two months after the wedding and no later than two weeks before the wedding. This timeframe guarantees that your best friend has free time until her big day, but also ensures that the fun doesn’t come and go too soon.

As with destination decision, it is important to consult with both your bride and other bridesmaids to confirm that everyone’s schedule does not include previous plans. Remember that not every member of the bridal party has to arrive or depart at the same time or even the same day. As long as you can spend at least a full day and night together, your bride will be more than satisfied!

Booking of accommodation and / or travel

After you’ve decided on the when and where, it’s time to decide how to go and where to stay. Most stag and hen parties require round-trip flights. We therefore recommend that you start your search early on.

While it is up to each bridesmaid to book their own transportation, it helps if, as the maid of honor, you keep everyone on the same page for flight times and prices. This guarantees that everyone has the opportunity to travel together and that no member of the bridal party has to pay more than another.

As mentioned earlier, it is not always possible for everyone to create at the same time, especially if they are not from the same area, but your bride will surely appreciate your efforts to achieve this. While you are delving into travel plans, you should also explore the accommodation options available in the area.

Depending on the size of your group and the total budget, we recommend renting a home from Airbnb or VRBO as these are usually cheaper to share and allow everyone to stay together. Before booking, be sure to read the reviews and see if you are getting the best bang for your buck.

Choose a theme

While this is not a necessary part of planning a bachelorette party, there are many brides who prefer to associate a theme with their girls’ weekend. Typically, this topic needs to be determined before planning the details (e.g. decorations, favors, shirts, etc.).

MODERN MOH TIP: Before making any important decisions about the subject, ask the bride about her vision. She probably already has an idea of ​​what she’s doing and what isn’t. So if she doesn’t want to be surprised, ask first.

Big Picture Basics (4-6 weeks before)

Explore the area

In the weeks leading up to your trip, do a little research on what your travel destination has to offer – activities, attractions, restaurants, bars, etc. As Maid of Honor, Your Bride Will Be Expecting You Have a basic Itinerary of Must See and Dos Guaranteed to get there to make a bachelorette that no one could forget.

There is no way you need to plan every hour of every day. Having just a loose idea of ​​the plans will save you time deciding where to eat, drink, and play. We recommend compiling a list of the top-rated restaurants, including one formal option for dinner and another for bottomless, bubbly, and bloody brunch. Add some quick options to this list when you’re on the go.

Check out the nightlife at bars that are within walking distance of where you are staying to avoid Uber costs and free-entry clubs and avoid paying a nominal fee. If you’d like to explore other activities and attractions please contact your host (Airbnb or VRBO) or the hotel concierge.

Schedule some games

While the bulk of your weekend will likely be on the go, it’s always a good idea to schedule some fun bachelorette games for home downtime. These games are especially useful when preparing for a night out or when you want to break the ice between those who may not know each other.

MODERN MOH TIP: Pick a game that can serve as a gift for the bride to take home and play on all future girls’ nights!

Order decorations

The key to turning a simple rental home into a picture-perfect party block is in the decor. While the decorations used can be similar to the bridal shower, the big part of decorating for the bachelorette is that you can be as R-rated as you want. And by R-rating, we mean using as many penis-shaped objects as possible.

MODERN MOH TIP: Contact your host to see if they would be ready to decorate before you girls arrive by offering to send the decorations directly to them. If that doesn’t work, keep your bride waiting in the bathroom while you set everything up and ready to party!

Decide on the right clothes

A modern must for any bachelorette party is coordinated attire. It is up to you as the maid of honor to speak to your bride and decide which outfits to plan ahead so the rest of the bridal party knows what to pack.

A common example would be the bride wearing all white while her bridesmaids wearing all black. This outfit is usually worn on the first night for a fancy dinner and dance night. Another popular trend these days is for the bride and girl to wear a specific piece of clothing with a matching print that is usually worn during the day for brunch and everyday drinking.

Organize gift bags

After you’ve coordinated the outfits, the next step in planning a bachelorette party is putting together a bag full of fun favors and hangover helpers for the bride and her maids, including you. This cute grooming kit, commonly known as the “Oh Shit Kit,” can contain anything from Advil and Pedialyte powders to hair ties and tattoos.

Recent tasks (week and day before)

Start a shared photo folder

In the world of modern technology and social media, it’s no exaggeration to say that hundreds of photos are taken during the Bachelorette weekend. Start an iCloud shared photo album that all of the pictures can be uploaded to to save yourself and the other girls the hassle of sending every single photo to every single phone.

This not only saves you the hassle of enlarged group text, but also makes it super easy to find all photos in one place. Trust us when we tell you that you will remember these images for years to come. So if you know exactly where to find them this will help!

Pack the necessities

Before you even start packing, we recommend making a list to make sure you don’t leave anything behind. Remember, you’re only going out for the weekend, so less is definitely more.

MODERN MOH TIP: If you are arriving by plane and need to bring a number of decorations / goodies, be sure to share these items with other members of the bridal party so that your bag is not crowded / overweight.

Finalize everything

We mean everything: travel plans, accommodation arrangements, transport from the airport, packing list, decorations and goodie bags. When you’ve double and triple double checking that you have everything ready to roll, get in touch with each of the bridesmaids to make sure they’re on the same page.

If there is something specific that someone should bring, acknowledge that they brought it. Finally, speak to your bride again to make sure there are no last minute changes or concerns.

Day of Duties


We’re so serious girls – get your groove on !! You worked so hard to put a ballin ‘bachelorette together so enjoy yourself! We’re sure there will be some hiccups and bridesmaid drama along the way. Just know that you did your best to make this weekend a memorable weekend for your best friend.

MODERN MOH TIP: Drink lots of water, eat lots, and take tons of pictures!

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