We were part of five different bridal showers and got to know our fair share of personalities. And for all these differences, we can say with confidence that each and every one of them has fallen into one of the six types of bridesmaid.
As a maid of honor, also known as the responsible bridesmaid, it is important that you identify these guys and prepare for how best to deal with them in difficult situations. It is also very helpful to know the strengths and weaknesses of each type so that you know which tasks and responsibilities they are best suited for.
Last but not least is the fact that you will fall into one of these types of bridesmaids yourself. Knowing which one can help you become the best bridesmaid that you can be!
The seasoned veteran
As the title suggests, this bridesmaid had the role a time or two before (and will most likely let you know about it)
This experience can come in handy when it comes to planning both the bridal shower and bachelorette party. So be sure to rely on this bridesmaid during these times.
The seasoned veteran, on the other hand, can get a little tricky if her advice is not always followed. So be prepared for some hurt feelings.
Our main piece of advice for dealing with this type of bridesmaid is to acknowledge their experience and gently remind them that no two brides are alike. In other words, show your gratitude for their guidance without giving in to all of their opinions.
The wedding planner
Often referred to as the Type A bridesmaid, this is the girl you may be trying to steal your role of maid of honor (while pretending to be her I’m just trying to help‘).
If you are lucky, this bridesmaid will make your job easier by being extremely organized and detail-oriented. If so, be sure to let her keep an eye on the details of planning the pre-wedding celebrations.
If you are unlucky, the wedding planner will try to overstep her role by planning every single detail regardless of everyone else’s inputs. In this case, you need to put your foot down and make it clear who is in charge.
Our main piece of advice for dealing with this type of bridesmaid is to keep her busy with clear assignments so that she always feels useful. We also encourage her to keep her updated on going on behind the scenes so that her urge to be involved in everything is satisfied.
The emotional roller coaster
Well, this type of bridesmaid can present herself in different ways depending on the situation (but no matter what, she will be in her feelings)
On a good day, the emotional roller coaster will be over joyous and optimistic. Rely on this type of energy to break the ice during bridal shower meetups and set the mood for the bridal shower and bachelorette parties.
On a bad day, this type of bridesmaid is going to be way too emotional and no doubt overdramatic. Try to avoid making this behavior problematic by facing controversy head on and addressing underlying issues.
Our main piece of advice for dealing with the emotional roller coaster is to accept all of its different emotions without letting them steal the show. And no matter what you do, don’t let negativity return to the bride.
The problem child
Like the emotional roller coaster, the problem child can manifest itself in many different forms (i.e. never reacting to texts, being late for meetings, not being willing to pay their share of the cost …)
While there aren’t many positives to dealing with this type of bridesmaid, the only plus is that it makes dealing with all of the other girls feel like a breeze.
Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about the problem child, as it has long since stopped coming back. All you can hope for is extra support from your fellow bridesmaids to fill the void.
Our main piece of advice for dealing with this type of bridesmaid is to approach her outside of the group to get a feel for what is going on. There is always the possibility that there is a personal reason for their difficulty, and if so, there may also be a solution.
The party animal
This type of bridesmaid is here to party and she doesn’t care who knows (or who has to deal with the ramifications).
The party animal comes in handy in two different settings: the bachelorette party and the wedding reception. Her ability to get the crowds moving is second to none. Use this to your advantage.
When this type of bridesmaid becomes a problem, her party refuses to stop. This often leads to disgusting outbursts, bad behavior, and embarrassing encounters.
Our main piece of advice for dealing with the party animal is to give it the freedom to have fun while denying the influence of the tempo setting. In other words, take part in some of their gimmicks, but don’t try to get to their level.
The black sheep
Every group has one, and in the case of bridal showers, it’s usually the future sister-in-law or distant cousin you’ve never met (but seen once on Instagram).
If this type of bridesmaid is an outgoing and outgoing person, it will make your job a lot less of a hassle. Take a little more time to get to know her, learn her strengths, and where she excels.
If the black sheep is calm and introverted, you may find yourself uncomfortable dealing with them. Unfortunately, this sometimes leads to her being further isolated from the group. It is therefore essential to avoid this.
Our main piece of advice when dealing with this type of bridesmaid is that you make every effort to make her feel included. This could mean sending her a separate text to let her know that you are always available for one-on-one conversations, or simply asking her a few questions about herself so that everyone can get to know her better.
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